Love is tricky. You really cannot know a person- their unique set of reactions, traits, beliefs and the deeply embedded underlying ideologies behind their casual remarks in a matter of 8 months, even a year. Yet, you emotionally and physically latch on as though you’re both in confident agreement you’re on the same page. Later, things come up.. things happen that spark surprising conversations, reveal their/your perspectives and perhaps irrational or unhealthy beliefs and behaviors, and at first you’re slightly alarmed but relatively cool. If you’re optimistic, this feels like an opportunity to grow together. You get to put in some effort (yay) because your relationship is worth it!